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For me, sisterhood is truly priceless. My very first friend was my sister, Ruby — the one who initiated me into “shenanigan-ness.” Ruby, thank you for being my first partner in mischief, my confidante, and my siscomplice through all our adventures. I am so grateful for you. I often think back to our Sankofa Ladies days — a journey that began when our parents took us to a Ghana Day celebration. I remember it vividly: my dad of blessed memory, mum, Ruby, my brothers, and I walking into a hall decked in red, gold, and green. Highlife music filled the air, fathers wore kente, mothers dazzled in elegant kaba and slit, and teenagers like Ruby andme awkwardly trailed behind. Thank you, Dad, for intentionally connecting us to our heritage, and Mum, for being our anchor and our guide. Those Ghana Union events became the backdrop for something bigger, and with our parents’ support, Ruby and I became The Sankofa Ladies — we quickly became the go-to group for Ghanaian youth events, fashion shows, raves, and all things fun. Ruby, I am deeply thankful for your companionship, courage, and laughter — my sister, my partner-incrime. The Birthday Journal 5
As I grew older, my circle of sisters expanded — but in this Journal, I will focus on my Marrakech sisters… Claudia, Yvonne, Doreen, Afua, Golda, Jennifer, Mansa, Rosie, Cynthia, Samira, and Mono — you are my circle of grace. Thank you for your friendship, your wisdom, your humour, and your constant support. Together, we’ve shared stories, dreams, and countless memories that have filled my heart with joy. Each of you has left a mark on my life, and for that, I remain forever grateful. You all came into my life because we share so much in common — authenticity, ease, and openness. Our bonds formed naturally. We have learnt to be strong for one another, to challenge each other to grow, and to remain consistent. You are sisters I can dream with — and actually see ideas come to life. Together, we’ve lived, grieved, healed, celebrated, supported, and grown — spiritually and emotionally. I never underestimate the warmth of our sisterhood or the depth of gratitude I feel for your friendship — the comfort of knowing I can always count on you. With each one of you, I have evolved. I have grown an inch further. I am becoming. Irene 6 The Birthday Journal
You all came into my life because we share so much in common — authenticity, ease, and openness. Our bonds formed naturally. We have learnt to be strong for one another, to challenge each other to grow, and to remain consistent. “ “ He has made everything beautiful in its time. Ecclesiastes 3:11 The Birthday Journal 7
Becoming Infamous with Irene – Ruby Growing up with Ghanaian immigrant parents, they were intentional about getting us involved in the Ghanaian community. We lived in Surrey, and back then, our classmates were mostly white, with just a sprinkle of Indian and Black students, so it wasn’t exactly buzzing with our culture. My late dad led us to the Ghana Union in London, where we started working on initiatives for young Ghanaians. The Ghana Union supported our efforts, and let’s just say… we didn’t hold back. We kicked things off with a fashion show, which naturally morphed into a rave. One event led to another, and before we knew it, we had earned our title as the “Sankofa Ladies” — club promoters, party planners, trendsetters. But these weren’t just any parties. Our events became platforms for young talent. DJs like PMP and 90 got their first real audience through our raves. We even took our shows to universities. At that time, it was the kind of thing that could have been covered by CNN International. Yeah… it was that big. There’s one story that still makes me laugh — and wince a little. Our parents were off in Ghana for amonth, and naturally, we thought, perfect timing for a huge house party the day they were leaving. Our parents, suspicious as ever, had the front door locked to try and stop us from any shenanigans. Did we care? Absolutely not. The party went ahead. And went ahead… big. So big, in fact, that the neighbours called the police. By the following morning, our little shindig was front-page news in the Croydon Advertiser. Yep, the “Sankofa Ladies” had officially gone infamous. We had to explain ourselves to the local MP who lived on our road. She was incredible, stepping in to help us sort things out with Scotland Yard and the council. The DJ’s equipment had even been seized — but after her intervention, Scotland Yard actually came to apologise. When our parents returned, it was time for the truth. That’s the only time in my life I remember Irene acknowledging that I was the older child. I was “voluntold” to lead the charge and confess everything. We laid it all out… and because we were honest, they forgave us. BECOMING with IRENE 8 The Birthday Journal
Looking back, those wild days taught us a lot about resourcefulness, boldness, and the power of honesty. From fun-loving young girls throwing raves to young women carving a place for themselves in the community, those early adventures shaped who we are — and more importantly, how we show up for each other. And let’s be real — the early twenties were something else. We partied hard. If the Sankofa Ladies showed up at a party, you just knew we were getting in. If the hosts tried to block us, the DJ would stop everything and follow us in. It was always the two of us — Irene and me — inseparable. People didn’t even differentiate; if you saw one, you saw the other. We were a force, a brand, a phenomenon, and yes… slightly infamous. But in the best way possible. The kind of infamous that makes people laugh, shake their heads, and secretly wish they could join the chaos. The Birthday Journal 9
Becoming Settling with Irene – Claudia I met Irene in Croydon, back in 1998, when we were both studying for the CIPD qualification. I remember seeing her and thinking, “Yes! Another Black woman on the course.” That alone felt like a quiet win. We got chatting and soon realised we were both Ghanaians—and from there, it just flowed. The connection was instant, familiar, and easy. The rest, as they say, is history. I’d describe my relationship with Irene as settling. Over time, it has found a kind of rhythm — less about big shifts and more about steady presence. We’ve grown into a space where things feel familiar, supportive, and easy. It’s not dramatic, but there’s comfort in knowing we’re there for each other in a quiet, consistent way. 10 The Birthday Journal
Becoming Consistent with Irene – Yvonne Irene is technically my cousinin-law — my cousin is married to her brother — so our family connection made it easy for our paths to cross. I honestly cannot remember the exact moment we first met; I think it was during my cousin’s “knocking.” What I do know is that from that first meeting, everything else was history. What drew me to Irene was how much we have in common. We both value open conversations, honesty, and authenticity. Over time, I came to deeply admire her strength, determination, and her consistency in continuing to grow. She is inspiring — not just to me, but to everyone who knows her. If I were to describe our relationship with a “Becoming” word, I would say we have become like sisters. She is the big sister I never had — always present, consistent, and ever supportive. She is never judgemental and always encouraging. Irene has taught me so much about what it means to grow alongside someone else. Our relationship is a journey ofmutual support, learning, and inspiration — a reminder that becoming is not just about personal growth, but also about the people who walk with you along the way. The Birthday Journal 11
Becoming Meaningful with Irene – Doreen I met Irene in 2010. We worked together at Vodafone Ghana. From the very start, I was super impressed by her energy, ambition, enthusiasm, and leadership. She carried herself with a natural leadership that didn’t just command respect — it inspired it. Over the years, our relationship has grown into something truly meaningful. If I had to sum it up in one “Becoming” phrase, it would be a strengthening of our sisterly connection. 12 The Birthday Journal
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Becoming Independent with Irene – Afua I met Irene in 2010. I first connected with her on LinkedIn when she was working at Vodafone Ghana. She invited me to come for an interview there, which I did, although I didn’t get the job. Even after she left Vodafone and went to South Africa, we stayed in touch through LinkedIn. When she returned to Ghana, we were both in senior HR roles — I at Baker Hughes, and she at Tullow. We worked together to bring the HR community together, organising several networking events, which allowed our professional relationship to grow. She later invited me to one of her ladies’ dinners, and that was how we eventually established the Sankofa International Ladies Association (SILA). From the start, my first impression of Irene was that she is a doer. She comes up with ideas, and I respond, “Fantastic, let’s do it,” and we make it happen. That practical, action-oriented energy is something we’ve always shared. Over time, our relationship grew closer. What started as workrelated interactions gradually developed into deeper conversations about life as well. If I had to sumup the evolution of our relationship in a word, it would be rites of passage. Our friendship has mirrored the journey from dependence to independence. During my marriage, I was very much defined by my role as a wife and mother. Sincemy husband passed, I’ve had to becomemuch more self-reliant — independent, resourceful, and forward-thinking. Through this journey, I’ve been able to share experiences with Irene about the importance of finding oneself, evenwithin amarriage. Long-term relationships can sometimes obscure who you are, what you stand for, and what you can achieve. Our friendship has come to embody independence, courage, boldness, and even a sense of adventure. It has been a journey of mutual growth — supporting each other, learning from one another, and evolving together, not just professionally, but personally as well. The Birthday Journal 15
Becoming Sisters with Irene – Golda-Mair I firstmet Irene inSouthAfricawhenmy then-fiancé, now husband, mentioned that she had invited us to a barbecue she was hosting. At the time, I had never met her, so I naturally asked, “Who is Irene?” From the way he described her, I pictured someone high-profile — perhaps even a little intimidating. But when I finally met her, I was pleasantly surprised. Standing before me was one of the sweetest, most humble, and genuinely lovely women I had ever encountered. She greeted everyone with warmth, her energy calm yet radiant. That first meeting left a lasting impression—one that made me say to myself, Wow. From that day, my admiration for Irene began. Over the years, our relationship has blossomed beautifully. If I had to describe it in one word, it would be Becoming. Irene has truly become my big sister. From being the chairperson at my wedding to guiding me through the early stages of settling in the UK, she has been a steady presence — offering wisdom, encouragement, and care at every turn. She has a rare gift for making you feel seen, heard, and supported. Whether through her thoughtful advice or her quiet strength, Irene embodies the kind of grace that uplifts others. I amdeeply grateful for the light she continues to bring into my life, and I feel truly blessed to call her my big sister. 16 The Birthday Journal
Becoming Authentic with Irene – Jennifer I met Irene in 2015, or just before. From the start, she struckme as a hardworking and determined family woman who valued friendship and understood the power of community. She carried herself with quiet strength and warmth— the kind that draws people in naturally. If I had to describe how our relationship has evolved over time, thewordwould be authentic. Nomatter how long passes without us speaking, we’re always able to reconnect easily and just be ourselves. We share ideas, experiences, and encouragement freely. It’s a genuine bond — real, effortless, and rooted in mutual respect. The Birthday Journal 17
Becoming Faithful with Irene – Mansa I first met Irene in 2015 when I helped organise her 40th birthday party. My first thought was, “Oh my gosh, this woman — she’s a lot!” Over the last several years, our relationship has evolved beautifully, moving from acquaintances to friends, and now to sisters. Lately, our connection has centred around spiritual growth, and it’s been truly inspiring. When we first became friends, I thought Irene was a little guarded — I even attributed it to her HR background! But over time, she has opened up, sharing more of herself and her heart. One of the most meaningful journeys we undertook together was a Lenten reflection, rediscovering Jesus through Matthew Kelly’s book. Experiencing it side by side was a blessing, and it deepened our bond in ways I’ll always cherish. Our relationship has been growing steadily — becoming stronger, more authentic, and more spiritually rooted with each passing year. 18 The Birthday Journal
Becoming Connected with Irene – Rosie The first time I met Irene was about seven or eight years ago at Ruby’s house in Ghana. Ruby was hosting a Christmas party, and that’s where our paths first crossed. We exchanged pleasantries, and I remember saying, “If you’d schooled in Ghana, I’m sure you would have gone to Wesley Girls.” She laughed and replied, “Oh, everyone says that!” There was something about her calm composure and the way she carried herself—graceful and grounded. I admired her immediately, and we connected. Over the years, Irene and I have grown even closer. Though she later moved back to London and we don’t speak as often, whenever we do connect, it feels as if no time has passed. We pick up exactly where we left off — catching up on life, laughing, and sharing stories as though we spoke just yesterday. It’s a refreshing kind of friendship, one that doesn’t fade, no matter the distance or the years in between. If I had to describe our relationship in one “Becoming” word, it would be Becoming Connected. True connection isn’t about constant contact — it’s about the ease, understanding, and warmth that remain, no matter how long it’s been. The Birthday Journal 19
Becoming Real with Irene – Cynthia I met Irene in 2017 when she interviewed me for my first job at Tullow. My first impression of her was that she was very professional. Over time, our relationship has evolved, and the best word to describe it is Real. We have grown together in the realisation that we have a lot in common, freeing us to be truly ourselves with each other. A woman whose company I truly enjoy! I love you, sis. 20 The Birthday Journal
Becoming Rooted with Irene – Samira I believe I first met Irene in 2017 or 2018. My immediate thought was, “Yay, another female Brit!” (lol). Almost instantly, I admired how confidently she carried herself and how effortlessly she got things done. She struck me as a natural-born leader — grounded, efficient, and full of quiet strength. Over the years, our friendship has grown deeper and more meaningful. If I had to sum it up in one word, it would be Becoming Rooted. Our connection is firmly grounded in mutual respect, laughter, shared values, and sisterhood. We’ve cheered each other on, supported one another, and celebrated every step of growth — big or small. Irene, often unknowingly, has planted a seed within me. Like the big fruit tree she is, she continues to grow, adding value not only to my life but to so many others around her. Thank you, Irene, for being exactly who you are! The Birthday Journal 21
Becoming Compassionate with Irene – Mono I met Irene years ago when she was leading the St James Ladies Group at church. I joined the committee to plan the maiden event, and she made sure everyone played their part. She was diplomatic but firm — she got things done while making everyone feel included. That day, I thought, Wow, this woman really has people skills. If I had to choose one word to describe how our relationship has evolved over time, it would be compassionate. We’ve reached a point where we can be real with each other — no fear, no judgement — just honesty, love, and genuine friendship. 22 The Birthday Journal
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When I was younger, I dreamed of becoming a food scientist. It all started when someone once suggested I should be a chef because I loved food. But I was excelling in science at school, and being a chef didn’t quite feel like the right fit. During a careers advice session, someone mentioned food science — a field that combined both my interests in food and science. I didn’t even know such a thing existed! From that point, it made perfect sense. So, I went on to study Food Science and Technology for my first degree. I loved learning how food works in the body and understanding the science behind what we eat. But when it came time to find a job, the path became less clear. At that time, there weren’t many Black people in the UK working in food science, and opportunities felt limited. Most of the roles I applied for had me competing with thirty or forty white candidates. I did well in the group exercises — I’ve always been good with people — but those numerical reasoning tests? I could barely make sense of the questions. Eventually, someone suggested I consider more people-centred roles. And that was the beginning of a new direction. I started working in research, then moved into training and development — and from there, my career evolved. Looking back, I realise my journey has always been about exploration and curiosity, which is why my Becoming word is Adventurous. For me, becoming adventurous means giving myself permission to explore more deeply — to follow my curiosity wherever it leads. One of my biggest dreams is to trace the food trail of the yam around the world. I’d love to learn how far it has travelled, what people have done with it, and how different cultures have adopted and adapted it. From traditional dishes to industrial uses — I want to uncover the life of the yam. Have I taken any real steps towards this dream? Not yet — apart from sharing the idea with my long-time friend. Between paying bills and looking after my family, it hasn’t quite happened. But if I had the time and resources, the first thing I’d do is research — really study the yam as a starch, trace its origins, and understand how it journeyed across seas, especially through the lens of the transatlantic slave trade. I’d explore how it found its way into different cuisines and cultures around the world. What have I learned so far on this journey? That I’m not yet as adventurous as I’d like to be. But I’m working on it. Maybe all it takes is a mindset shift — and, well, a little bit of money wouldn’t hurt. Becoming Adventurous — following curiosity, exploring the world, and daring to chart new paths. Becoming Adventurous There’s a certain kind of courage in curiosity — the willingness to ask “what if?” and follow where it leads. 24 The Birthday Journal
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My earliest dream was to be an actress. I loved the stage — the freedom, the storytelling, and the ability to transform into different characters. That passion led me to study Theatre Studies at college, where I felt completely in my element. But as I grewolder, lifeandculturegently steered me in a different direction. The dream of acting gave way to something new — something that still involved people, emotion, and purpose. I found my calling in Human Resources. It wasn’t the stage I’d first imagined, but it became a platform where I could help others shine, develop, and grow. Today, I’ve had the privilege of working as a Global HR Executive across industries and regions. I’m deeply grateful for my journey so far — the lessons, the people, and the experiences that have shaped me along the way. My biggest challenge has been balancing family, work, and wellness. There are moments when it all feels overwhelming, but I’ve learned to lean fully on my faith. The God who made me is always with me and lifts me through everything. Through this journey, I’ve learned to always keep the faith and believe in God. Stay focused, be good, be kind, keep loving, and keep moving forward. No matter how tough things get, I know that God will always give me the strength and the resources I need to rise above. I may not have become the actress I once dreamed of, but in many ways, I’m still playing a meaningful role — helping others grow, leading with compassion, and walking confidently in God’s purpose for my life. Becoming Grounded — staying rooted in faith, purpose, and helping others flourish. Becoming Grounded Sometimes, life doesn’t take you where you planned — it takes you where you’re meant to be. 26 The Birthday Journal
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At this stage in my life, in my fifties, becoming means something very different from what it did years ago. For me now, it’s about being truthful and purposeful. If I had to choose one word, that would be it: purposeful. Everything I’ve experienced has led me to see that there’s really one direction I must go—one true calling that defines me. I believe that each of us has a purpose, a specific work we were sent to do on earth. Scripture taught me that. When I read about the Levites, the priests, and how everyone had their role, it made me pause and ask myself: what is mine? What is that one thing that, if taken away, I simply wouldn’t be me? Forme, that answer has always beenhospitality. From childhood until now, the story of my life has always been tied to food — serving it, sharing it, celebrating it. Anyone who’s known me since I was young can tell you that. My cousin reminded me just the other day of little stories that prove this has always been part of who I am. Cooking and feeding people bring me joy. It’s my natural rhythm. But purpose, for me, is also about fighting for others — especially the underrated, the underestimated, the ones people overlook. I’ve always had a heart for young people and for vocational education. I love showing that the person someone once dismissed can rise and fulfil their God-given destiny. That’s why, when people come toworkwithme, I give them everything — 110%. I may not be the most patient person in other situations, but when it comes to training and development, patience becomes second nature. Watching others grow into their potential is one of my greatest joys. Of course, there are challenges. COVID tested everyone, but for me, the deeper struggle has been wanting to do more than my resources allow. Sometimes I wish I could train thirty people instead of two. Ghana isn’t always structured to support that kind of work easily. And with my young children still depending on me, I have to balance my dreams with practical responsibilities. But purpose doesn’t go away; it simply waits for its full season. My uncle, a man of wisdom, once told me, “Your kids are young — plan now, build gradually.” And that’s exactly what I’m doing. My dream is to establish a culinary and vocational school by the time I’m sixty. Every step I take now is leading there. Rightnow, I’mfocusedonBistroAfrica, aproject close to my heart. Its goal is to raise funds to build kitchens for underprivileged schools that have none. Imagine children going to school with no canteen, nowhere to prepare proper food — it’s unacceptable. Our first kitchen Becoming Purposeful Purpose doesn’t shout — it speaks softly. And if you listen closely, it will guide your every step. 28 The Birthday Journal
project is in Afienya, and we’re already making progress. I dedicate ten per cent of the profits frommy jam sales to support this mission. Vocational training has a special place in my heart. I can have somebody here and train them to be a top-class waiter, and they’ll go on to build a career for life. Not everyone has the resources or opportunity topursue formal education to become a doctor. But vocational training presents a level playing field — it has the power to transform lives, not just economically but socially and emotionally. What I love most about it is that it’s inclusive. Everyone has a place; everyone can thrive. Because I believe this with all my heart: you can train someone for six weeks and give them a career for life. And if that’s not purpose, I don’t know what is. Becoming is not a single moment — it’s a journey of alignment. Every dish I serve, every young person I train, every kitchen we build — these are all steps in walking fully into my purpose. Becoming Purposeful — following my calling, serving others, and building something that lasts. Chef Ruby But purpose doesn’t go away; it simply waits for its full season. My uncle, a man of wisdom, once told me, “Your kids are young — plan now, build gradually.” The Birthday Journal 29
From the time I was little, I dreamed of becoming a career woman — confident, independent, and financially free. I wanted a life shaped by choice, not circumstance; one built on hard work, purpose, and self-belief. That dream was born from two powerful contrasts. On one hand, I saw my family make countless sacrifices because they lacked financial independence. On the other, I had an aunt who walked into every room with grace, poise, and confidence. She often took me to her office when I was little, and I watched how people listened when she spoke. She commanded respect effortlessly. From then on, I knew I wanted to change my story through determination and self-belief. I first realisedmy dreamcould actually happen back in secondary school. I began excelling in Economics and Accounting — subjects that truly sparked my interest. Receiving recognition for my work gave me a glimpse of what was possible; it showed me that my passion and effort could open doors. Since then, I’ve been intentional about every choice I make — pursuing my ACCA qualification, building solid professional experience, and seeking international exposure that pushed me beyond my comfort zone. All these steps have strengthened my confidence and prepared me for the kind of woman I aspire to be. But the journeyhasn’tbeenwithout challenges. Managing imposter syndrome while balancing professional ambitions and family responsibilities hasn’t been easy. There have been moments when I’ve questioned whether I’m good enough, especially when stepping into new roles or unfamiliar environments. One of my biggest turning points came when I joined the vision board group that Irene and Afua created. It gave me not just practical tools to focus and maintain balance, but also a supportive community—a tribe that believed in me even when I doubted myself. Whenever things feel tough, I go back to my vision board and notes, reminding myself of my “why” and drawing strength from the goals and affirmations I’ve set for myself. Through this journey, I’ve learned that whatever I set my mind to, I can achieve — with the help of God. Once something is on my vision board, it becomes more than a dream; it becomes a promise to myself. I’ve learned patience, consistency, and the power of trusting the process, even when things don’t unfold as planned. Becoming Confident — learning to trust myself, stay focused, and step into my power. Becoming Confident Confidence is built one choice at a time — the courage to trust yourself and step into your power. 30 The Birthday Journal
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For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to be someone who makes a difference — kind, loving, and impactful. I’ve always believed that life isn’t just about what we achieve, but how we help others grow along the way. I’ve always been fascinated by how people’s lives can turn out so differently, depending on their choices and the environments they grow up in. That curiosity shaped my outlook on life very early on. I understood that my decisions would define my path and create an impact that could outlive me. There wasn’t one single moment when I realised my dream could happen — it was a gradual awakening. Through experience, I learned that my attitude and behaviour directly influenced my results. The more I paid attention to my mindset, the more I recognised how faith, hard work, and a positive outlook could transformmy life. I’ve become deeply passionate about the human mind — how it works and how, no matter what has happened in the past, it can be trained to serve us better. That passion drives me daily. Of course, the journey hasn’t been without its challenges. One of the biggest has been working through mental blocks and fears, staying focused when things don’t go as planned, and remaining patient when progress feels slow. But through it all, I’ve learned to trust God, to thank Him for His grace, and to count my blessings. Gratitude grounds me — it reminds me how far I’ve come and keeps me hopeful for what’s ahead. Most importantly, I’ve learned to keep loving who I am becoming and to have compassion for myself. I’ve learned that I am a strong and courageous woman— indeed, fearfully and wonderfully made. Becoming Impactful — growing with purpose and faith, leaving a positive mark along the way. Becoming Impactful Impact begins with intention — the small decisions we make every day can ripple far beyond ourselves. 34 The Birthday Journal
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As a child, I always knew I was meant to be different — imaginative, bold, and unafraid to dream beyond the norm. While others followed the usual paths, I was already imagining how to turn creativity into something powerful and meaningful. I remember thinking, “What if I could create my own version of Disney World?” Something fun, magical, and yes — money-generating! I was fascinated by how Disney turned imagination into an empire, and I secretly dreamed of doing the same: building something joyful, creative, and larger than life. I lovedseeingpeople forge theirownpaths, create new things, and succeed against the odds. I now understand that this early fascination planted the seed for my journey into entrepreneurship. Alongside that, I dreamed of financial freedom so that I could live creatively and do what I loved with ease and intention. So I jumped into the entrepreneurial world. Even though I’ve been an entrepreneur for over ten years, it was only in the last two or three years that I truly realised this dream of financial freedom could be mine. It started when Kimba, my successful entrepreneur sister-friend, asked me the right questions — questions that cut through the surface and made me look deep within myself. I also realised that entrepreneurship, like any profession, needs to be learned — and with the right teachers and willing students, one can be very successful. That someone asking me the right questions brought about a profound shift. To make this dream of entrepreneurship with financial freedom a reality, I began a journey of self-study and reflection. Through learning from mentors like Bob Proctor and applying their teachings, I started to truly believe: I deserve this, and it is possible. My biggest challenge has been patience. I initially expected everything to happen quickly and struggled with feelings of failure when results didn’t appear within my desired timeframe. Over time, however, I realised that growth and success unfold in their own divine timing — and that the journey itself is where true transformation happens. My biggest aha moment came when I realised that entrepreneurship is deeply intertwined with my spirituality. I have come to understand that this path ismy spiritual journey. I keep going by tapping into my faith— learning to trust God fully, and focusing less on what I see around me and more on the direction He is guiding me towards. I speak my dreams as though they are already here, moving intentionally and faithfully towards them each day. Now, I dedicate myself to developing my spirituality alongside my personal growth, and I surround myself with fellow entrepreneurs who are walking a similar path, sharing in the journey of faith and purpose. Becoming Spiritual Spiritual growth is a quiet journey —when you listen closely, the path becomes clear. 36 The Birthday Journal
Along this journey, I’ve learned that I am a work in progress. I’ve discovered my capacity to grow spiritually, to impact lives even fromwhere I am right now. For me, becoming is about becoming spiritual — learning to hear the voice of the Holy Spirit, to understand myself, and to trust that the desires of my heart are given to me by God. Becoming is stillness. It’s purpose. It’s the courage to pursue what I’ve been called to do, even when the path is uncertain. I want my journey to be proof that if God can do it for me, He can do it for anyone. And in that, I continue to become. Becoming Spiritual — the divine journey of building faith and prosperity through entrepreneurship. Mansa The Birthday Journal 37
When I was younger, I dreamed of becoming a newsreader. I admired women like Beatrice Aidoo and Selma Valcourt, who graced our television screens with such poise and authority. I never missed the six o’clock evening news at home — it was family time, it was sacred time. I’d sit there, eyes glued to the screen, imagining myself in that seat one day, reading the evening headlines with confidence and grace. And when people told me I looked like the newscaster Loretta Asare, that sealed it for me. But life, as it does, had other plans. By the time I completed my A-Levels, the Ghana Institute of Journalism only offered a diploma course, and everyone aroundme seemed to be chasing university degrees instead. I changed course too — and looking back, I think it all worked out exactly as it should have. Today, I run my own business, and I absolutely love what I do. There’s something deeply fulfilling about being your own boss — making decisions, building something from the ground up, and knowing that what you put in is exactly what you’ll get out. It gives you freedom, and it keeps you accountable. With time, I’ve realised that becoming isn’t just about what you do — it’s about who you’re growing into. I’ve become more open-minded, less judgmental, and more accepting of people as they are. Life has a way of softening you, of teaching you to see beyond the surface. I’ve learned that everyone’s story is shaped by their own journey, and that understanding makes you calmer, kinder, and far less worried about things you can’t control. At this stage of my life, I think — to the best of my knowledge — I’ve seen it all, I’ve heard it all, and nothing really surprises me anymore. I’ve come to realise that no situation is permanent — no matter how great the storm is, it will pass. When life gets tough, I remain calm. In the past, I might have been agitated or anxious, but now I take a breath, steady myself, and remember what my faith has taught me: whatever the storm, it won’t last forever. These days, I don’t stress easily. My faith keeps me grounded; it reminds me that everything comes and goes in its season. I’ve truly learned the power of calm — the peace that comes from trusting that everything will unfold as it’s meant to. Becoming Calm— the gentle art of knowing that every storm will pass. Becoming Calm Calmness is a choice — a quiet strength that carries you through life’s storms. 38 The Birthday Journal
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As a little girl, I dreamed of becoming a fashion model. But I quickly realised I didn’t quite fit the mould. At the same time, I loved being around babies and little children. I was endlessly creative, often making outfits for my dolls out of socks and scraps of fabric. Deep down, I dreamed of creating something that would bring joy to children — something beautiful, meaningful, and celebrating who they are. My inspiration came from both my childhoodandmyjourneyintomotherhood. My own children loved teddies — just like I did — and I still remember them asking me to create a superhero teddy for them. Before I married, my husband once asked me a question that stayed with me: “If you could do anything or have anything in the world, what would it be?” My answer was immediate: “To create a child-focused service or product.” That vision never left me. It combined my love for creativity, children, and purpose — and it became the foundation for what I do today. It all became real when I stumbled across an Instagram account of a lady I went to high school with. She was a singlemumwho had started her own small business, creating dolls for her mixed-race child, including a beautiful Black doll with pink hair. That moment stirred something deep inside me. It reminded me that representation matters — and it gave me the courage to pursue my own dream of creating products for young Black children. Since then, I’ve been taking steps to make it happen. I’ve been working on my designs, registered my company, and am collaborating with a graphic designer and a factory to bringmy ideas to life. The journey hasn’t been easy. My biggest challenge has been navigating self-doubt — that quiet voice that asks, “Are you really capable?” Balancing motherhood, marriage, creativity, and business also comes with its hurdles. But every time doubt creeps in, I remind myself of how far I’ve come and why I started. Faith and family are what keep me going. Having a daughter — and naming the brand after her — gives me strength and motivation to forge ahead, even when things get tough. Seeing her name on every piece I create reminds me that this journey is bigger than me. Through this journey, I’ve learned that I am capable. I am resilient. I was born to create. And above all, I’ve learned that “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). This path has taught me the power of faith, perseverance, and purpose — and how beautifully they work together when you trust the process. Becoming a Creator — the joy of turning ideas into something real, meaningful, and full of heart. Becoming a Creator Creation is a calling — a chance to bring imagination to life with heart and purpose. 44 The Birthday Journal
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If I had to describe what becoming means to me at this stage of my life, the word would be consistent. That’s what I’m striving towards — consistency in everything I do. I’ve realised that I have a tendency to start many things with enthusiasm — great ideas, new projects, exciting opportunities—but sometimes I move on too quickly. I dipmy hands into different pockets and then let them go before seeing the full result. What I’m learning now is that when something is good, you keep doing it. You build on it. You stay the course. Because consistency brings growth, stability, and better outcomes. If there’s one thing I want to be more consistent in, it’s learning and growing. I’ve discovered that every new skill adds a new layer to who I am. When I started my current job, everything was unfamiliar — the systems, the structure, the pace. But I stayed focused, determined to learn. And before long, I’d not only mastered it but began teaching others. That reminded me how powerful consistency can be. Interestingly, when I was younger, I never had a fixed dream of what I wanted to “become.” I just wanted to be good at whatever I did. My career path wasn’t planned— I worked in banking for 23 years, almost by chance, after dating someone in that field. Later, I transitioned into employability, helping people back intowork. It’s not something I envisioned, but it feels deeply rewarding. Helping someone regain confidence, rebuild their career, and see hope again — it fills me with joy. Still, my heart beats for fashion and design. From college days, I’ve loved fabrics, textures, and colours. Friends and family have always noticed — commenting on my style, the way I decorate my home, how I put things together. Those compliments slowly made me realise that I might have a real flair for it. Interior design, in particular, excites me — the ability to transform a space, to make someone feel joy through beauty and colour. I’ve decided to explore short courses to see how I can develop it further, even if only as a passion project for now. But I’ll admit, consistency is not always easy. Life has its challenges. I’m a full-time carer for my mother, who’s 72, while juggling work and trying to make time for myself. Yet, what keeps me going is love — the love I have for my mum and the joy I see when she smiles. It’s an honour to care for her, and I truly believe it’s a blessing to be able to give back. I also draw strength from my circle of friends. Their support keeps me grounded and inspired. Whether it’s through caring for my mum, helping someone find employment, or simply bringing colour into people’s lives through design and style — those moments remind me why consistency matters. Because consistency isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up again and again, even when life pulls you in different directions. Becoming Consistent — the quiet strength of showing up, growing, and loving through every season. Becoming Consistent Consistency is the quiet strength that turns effort into achievement. 46 The Birthday Journal
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When I was younger, my dream was to be unafraid. I was shy growing up, and my dream was to get out of my shell and be “normal.” I often found myself wishing I could be more like my brothers — open, confident, and easygoing. They seemed so free, while I was overthinking things. One day, my dad said something that changed everything. He told me I was too intelligent to be timid. That word — timid — stuck with me. It didn’t feel right because deep down, I knew I wasn’t timid. I didn’t like that word being associated with me. I knew I was just very shy, not timid, and if being shy meant being considered timid, I had to do something about it. I realised it could actually happen for me when I began to do a lot of public speaking and discovered that I did it with passion. Since then, whenever the thud of my hearbeat gets louder and the sinking feeling in my stomach rings the alarm bells of fear, I ask myself, What is the worst that could happen? That simple question settles me and keeps me moving forward. The biggest challenge has been when people get offended after hearing the truth. Through this journey, I’ve discovered that I’m a daredevil go-getter at heart. Fear might knock, but I do not let it in. After all, what is the worst that could happen? Becoming Fearless — trusting myself, speaking my truth, and stepping forward no matter what. Becoming Fearless Cynthia I’ve felt fear, but I’ve developed the tools to overcome it whenever it nibbles. The Birthday Journal 49
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From a young age, I always dreamt of becoming an entrepreneur. My dad was my biggest inspiration. He travelled all the time and would return home with stories, gifts, and tales of people and places that made the world sound so exciting. He would describe the restaurants he visited and all the different foods he tried — and I knew then that I wanted to be just like him. I wanted my own business so I could make my own money, travel the world, meet people, and eat at fancy restaurants. When I moved back home to Ghana, I started working in my dad’s company. For about a year, I rotated through different departments before he finally handed me one tomanage. Thenhe toldme something that would shape the rest of my journey— he wasn’t going to pay me a salary. The department had to make enough to pay both the staff and me, contribute to the company’s running costs, and still have savings left over. It was going well until one day he asked me to represent the company at a meeting overseas. When we checked the accounts, there wasn’t enough money for the trip — not if we wanted to pay salaries. The trip went to another manager whose department could afford it. That was my wake-up call. I realized my dad had been teachingme how to run a business all along — how to be self-sufficient, innovative, and responsible. That’s when I began to truly understand what entrepreneurship meant. I started thinking differently: how could we make more money, reduce waste, and build stronger client relationships? I began askingmy dad questions, watching howhe operated, and learning how to manage and grow what I had. After a few years — and many mistakes — I finally decided to take the leap. I registeredmy own company and started building something that was mine, on my own terms. Almost 20 years later, I’m still doing it. I’ve made mistakes, I’ve failed, and I’ve succeeded — but through it all, I’ve lived my dream. I’m in my element when I’m running my business. Whatever I put my mind to, I give it 110%, and I make sure I’m passionate about it. Becoming Self-Made Every dream starts somewhere. Mine began with a desire to create, to lead, and to live life on my own terms. 52 The Birthday Journal
Of course, it hasn’t all been smooth sailing. In Ghana, the biggest challenge is often the people — the ones who aren’t straightforward, who string you along for months with promises of contracts that never materialize, who waste your time when they never had the authority to decide in the first place. Dealing with people has been the toughest part of this journey. But I keep going. When things get tough, I lift my head high and tell myself, It can only get better. I go to my room, cry if I must, then kneel and leave it all to God. My go-to prayer is one of surrender — letting Him take over. Every time I’ve done that, He’s carried me through. This journey has taught me that I’m stronger than I appear — stronger than I even think I am. When I set my mind on something, commit it to God, and work hard, I always reach my goal. Becoming Self-Made—building the strongest version of myself, from the inside out. Mono The Birthday Journal 53
As a child, I didn’t have one fixed dream — but I knew I wanted to make a difference. I imagined myself in roles where I could speak up, support others, and bring a touch of beauty into the everyday. One version of me saw a future in advisory, law, or leadership; another loved the idea of dressing up and walking into a roomwith elegance and purpose. I’ve always loved talking (my dad used to say, “Claudia, when you’re talking, doesn’t your mouth ever get tired?”), so even then, I knew I wanted to be in a positionwhere I wasmentoring or guiding others — something that combined care, clarity, and a bit of style in everything I did. The people who inspired that dream were a mix of powerful women and early affirmations. My mum, with her quiet strength and grace, showed me what it meant to care deeply while standing firm. Auntie Sophia — my godmother — was elegance personified. Always put-together, always warm, she made me believe that style and substance could absolutely go hand in hand. And then there was Mrs Patrick, the only Black teacher in my primary school. She had such presence — always immaculately dressed, makeup flawless. When she walked into a room, you felt it. She sawme, encouragedme, andmade me believe my voice mattered. Those women didn’t just inspire a dream — they shaped how I saw myself and what I believed was possible. I first realised my dream could truly take shape when I started working in HR and discovered that I was doing far more than dealing with policies and procedures. I was supporting people, guiding them, and helping them feel seen. I was finally in a position where my voice mattered — where I could bring care, clarity, and a touch of style to spaces that often felt cold or impersonal. To make that dream a reality, I’ve been intentional about where I put my energy, who I align with, and how I show up. I’ve started advocating for myself more — in conversations about pay, progression, and purpose. I’mcarving out space to reflect and dream a little bigger. And I’m trusting that the skills I’ve built, the relationships I’ve nurtured, and the faith I carry are all part of the foundation. This next chapter is about building upon that. The biggest challenge has been staying rooted in who I am while moving through spaces that don’t always reflect me back. There have been moments of doubt — those quiet, limiting beliefs that whisper that I need to be more polished, more palatable, more perfect to be taken seriously. It’s exhausting. But over time, I’ve learned to spot those voices, challenge them, and lean into what feels true. Having people like Irene around helps — she gets it, no long explanations needed. Becoming Settling Life is less about arrival and more about standing in alignment. 54 The Birthday Journal
When things get tough, I hold on to the belief that God has a plan for me, even when I can’t see the full picture. I remind myself that He wouldn’t place a challenge before me that I’m not equipped to handle. That doesn’t mean it’s easy, but it gives me a quiet strength. I’ve learned to trust that even in the mess or the waiting, there’s purpose. That belief — that I’m being held, guided, and stretched for a reason— is what keeps me grounded. On this journey, I’ve learned that I’m more resilient than I often realise. Even when those limiting beliefs creep in — the ones that whisper I’m not ready, not enough, not quite there— I still find a way to move forward. I’ve learned that I value connection deeply, that I thrive when surrounded by people who see me clearly and hold space without judgement. I’ve also come to lean more into my faith — trusting that God’s plan is unfolding, even when I can’t see every detail. And perhaps most importantly, I’ve realised that I don’t have to be hard to be strong. There’s power in softness, in grace, in showing up just as I am. Becoming Settling is learning that home isn’t a place — it’s a state of being. Claudia The Birthday Journal 55
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