where I spent the next few days before being discharged on Monday, 11th August. My entry into this world felt ordinary, but even then, something sacred stirred in the air. Perhaps it was the name my grandmother had already chosen for me—Enyonam, “It is well with me.” A name spoken over me like a blessing before I could even cry. My grandmother died just five months later. I never got to know her, but I carry the name she gave me like a shawl over my shoulders—soft and sure. It has helpedme throughmany phases of my life, especially when I’ve struggled with the changing scenes of life. I remember who I am and appreciate that all is well with me, and that God is with me. My grandma’s passing left my mother to play the dual role of both mum and grandma, especially as I was her first child. That loss shaped our little family in ways we felt for years, but it also strengthened the bond between my mother and me in ways words can’t fully explain. Those early years taught me one of life’s first quiet lessons—that grace doesn’t always announce itself. Sometimes it simply shows up as a mother who stays. The Great Chef From a young age, I showed signs of being curious— especially in the kitchen. I would watch my mother closely as she cooked, studying her every move. By the time I was 10 or 11, I had already become a pretty good cook myself. Whenever she was away, I would prepare meals, gather the children in our compound house, and share the food with them. I wasn’t just cooking—I was building community, creating joy, and discovering a part of myself that loved bringing people together. I was always surrounded by friends. Our house was a lively one, especially when our mother wasn’t home. I’d keep the other children company, and after eating, we’d play ampe while the boys busied themselves with football. I didn’t just love company—I loved people. I was known to be friendly, generous, and the kind of child who would make everyone feel welcome. Those early years taught me one of life’s first quiet lessons—that grace doesn’t always announce itself. Sometimes it simply shows up as a mother who stays. “ The Birthday Journal 5
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